Selection Pressure

The Great Filter
You are here because every single one of your ancestors managed to do two improbable things:
1. Survive to adulthood.
2. Convince a mate to say "Yes."
This is the Great Filter.
The Mechanisms of Choice
Evolution uses two primary algorithms for attraction:
1. Fisherian Runaway: A "Sexy Son" loop. Females prefer a trait (e.g., long tail), so males with that trait get more mates. The trait exaggerates until it becomes absurd (Runaway Selection).
2. The Handicap Principle (Zahavi): Costly signals are the most honest. A peacock's tail makes it slow and vulnerable. The fact that he is still alive proves he has genetic surplus.
- Human equivalent: Humor, Art, and Altruism are metabolically expensive. They signal "I have energy to spare."

The Mating Mind
Much of human psychology (humor, art, music, altruism) may be a "fitness indicator"—a peacock's tail of the mind. We evolved big brains not just to solve problems, but to entertain each other.
To be boring was an evolutionary death sentence.
The Inheritance of Perspective
Your anxiety about rejection is not a defect; it is a mechanism that kept your lineage alive. But it is calibrated for a village of 150, not a city of millions. Rejection today is just data, not death. You are already a winner by birth.